i am one of these super lucky chicks who has 5 great teenage kids. great kids with some dumb a** moments like all kids. they all have their things and sometimes rack my nerves, like all kids.
my middle child is my youngest daughter. middle children can go a couple different ways. she's got a rebellous streak. she's stubborn. and more importantly she is brilliant, complex, knows herself, and can differentiate people and things that matter from those that do not. wow right? i don't think i got that skill until i was well into my 20's. i was very idealistic and wanted to help everyone i possibly could whether they wanted it or not. (oldest child thing)
not my boo. she's got the makings of an amazing woman because she is already several steps ahead of where most of us were at that age.
with this incredible self assurance comes the haters. not loving that. most of the time she handles it better than i do. she can blow them off because they don't count.
apparently last night was not one of those nights. i found her crying. this child hasn't cried since she was 2 or 3 and that was a tantrum to get her way before all the vocab came in.
as i was holding my 17 yr old in my arms, which i rarely get to do for long, and stroking her hair as she sobbed .....
the momma bear inside me ROARED.
apparently she had been the victim of cyber-bullying to an extent that shocked me. i used to teach high school. trust me, i do not shock easily. as the story goes, girl A thinks that she did something with her boyfriend. Girl A tells girls B, C, D, E, etc. they were filling her facebook with words that are so strong and nansty that you would have to watch some XXX to hear this verbage. i'm am the last thing from a prude. i was a sailor for gawd sakes, so you get my point.
here's the thing. EVEN if my daughter had done any of these things in a consensual physical relationship (or one nighter) what kind of a pathetic girl A would fight to stay with a boy who participated in such behavior with another girl.
and that is the conversation that me and the boo had. how low must this girl think of herself to shame herself publically like that.
would you ever ridicule the girl that your boy messed around with while standing by your boy....IN HIGH SCHOOL. i get the thing if its a 30 yr marriage with kids, grandkids, and a mortgage. but damn. highschool. what kind of a dumb ass are you to attempt to belittle a girl and write all these ficticious things on her facebook that you think she did WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND. hello!! you are humiliating yourself. dumb ass. a part (the b*#ch part) of me kind of wishes that she would have made out with him (not to the extent of the accusations)
so the PMS that caused the crying passes. boo got some perspective, and once again feels like the strong, superior creature that she is. she knows that she's loved by who matters and can dismiss those who do not.
as a little insurance (because i tend to not involve myself in kid drama) i printed all the messages and put them in a safe place, juuuussssssttttt incase something happens to come up between these girls
and.....i beat the hell out of the treadmill to ease my frustration